Setting the Mood and Build-Up
To give your partner the ultimate blowjob experience, setting the right mood is vital. Dim the lights, play some slow music, and consider lighting some scented candles to help him relax. You may also want to dress up in sexy lingerie to visually stimulate him before getting started.
Tease Him Before the Blowjob
Start by gently kissing and caressing his body to build anticipation. Slowly undress him while maintaining eye contact and a seductive smile. Run your fingers through his hair, caress his face, and give him a sensual massage.
Whisper all the naughty things you want to do to him in his ear. This teasing foreplay will ensure he is fully aroused by the time you go down on him.
Open Wide & Start Blowing
When he can’t handle any more teasing and is hard and ready, it’s time to dive in. Slide your tongue along his shaft. Slowly start licking his shaft up and down with your tongue. After a few good laps, take him into your mouth. Take as much as you are comfortable with, then start to suck.
Use a twisting motion with your hands as you go up and down. Apply different pressures and speeds to see how he responds. Look for verbal and nonverbal cues to see what techniques he enjoys the most.
Add a Little Sizzle to Your Blowjob
To take your blowjob to the next level, try adding a little heat or cold. Put an ice cube in your mouth, then slide your way down. The temperature difference will drive him wild. You can also try heating a glass of water and taking a sip before going down on him.
The warm sensation will be intensely pleasurable. Throw in some kink by fingering his backdoor for prostate stimulation or gently sucking on his balls. Changing up techniques and temperatures and adding in kinky elements will make this an unforgettable experience for your partner.
Spit or Swallow After the Blowjob?
The final decision is up to you and depends on your comfort level. Swallowing his ejaculate can be an incredibly erotic experience for both of you, showing how much you enjoyed pleasuring him. However, spitting is also perfectly acceptable if you prefer.
The most important thing is focusing on his pleasure and giving him the ultimate blowjob experience. He is sure to be fully satisfied with the right mood, build-up, technique, and finale.
Oral Tips and Techniques
If you want to treat your partner to an unforgettable experience, follow these tips to master the art of fellatio.
Tease Him Before the Blowjob
Start by slowly undressing your partner while maintaining eye contact. Place light kisses on his neck, chest, and inner thighs. Gently brush your fingertips along the length of his shaft. These teasing touches will increase his arousal and make the main event even more pleasurable.
Open Wide & Start Blowing
When he can’t handle any more teasing and is hard and ready, it’s time to dive in. Slide your tongue along his shaft from base to tip, then take him into your mouth. Go down as far as you comfortably can, then suck while pulling back. Repeat this motion, varying your speed and suction. Use your hands to stroke what your mouth can’t reach.
Enthusiasm and Control Are Key
Even if you need more experience, show enthusiasm. Take control and make him tell you what he enjoys. Confidence is sexy, so act like you mean business.
Use Your Hands
Grasping the base of his shaft while working the head with your mouth adds stimulation. Pump or twist your wrist to give your jaws a break without losing momentum.
Change Speeds and Add Humming
Try different speeds and suction levels until you find what makes him moan. Once you discover the perfect pace, maintain that rhythm. Humming while performing fellatio causes throat vibrations for extra pleasure.
Get it Wet and Add Sensation.
Have plenty of saliva for lubrication and a sexy visual. Put an ice cube in your mouth before going down for a chilling sensation. Focus on erogenous zones like the frenulum (underside of the head) and scrotum. For adventure, stimulate his perineum or prostate.
Be Spontaneous
Surprise your partner with unexpected oral sex, whether first thing in the morning or during a Netflix binge. Spontaneity shows your passion and enthusiasm.
Consider His Climax Preference
Ask if he prefers to finish in your mouth or elsewhere. Respect his choice either way, as a considerate lover would. With the proper technique and his guidance on what he enjoys most, you'll have him begging for more in no time.
Using Your Hands While Blowing Him
Variety is the Spice of Life
To give your man the ultimate blowjob, employing your hands in addition to your mouth provides enhanced sensations and added variety. Grasping the base of his shaft and pumping or twisting your wrist around it while orally working the head adds stimulation without breaking rhythm.
Changing techniques, speeds, and degrees of pressure keeps things exciting until you find what puts him over the edge. Once discovered, maintain a steady pace and grip to bring him to climax.
The Frenulum: A Dude’s Second Favorite “F” Word
The frenulum, where the shaft meets the head, is a man’s most sensitive area. Give it extra attention, lightly licking and circling your tongue around this V-shaped zone.
Don’t Neglect the Twins
While lavishing attention on the shaft, consider traveling further south to caress the scrotum. Gently massaging the testicles pleasures manipulation of these erogenous zones.
For the especially adventurous, continue the journey by stimulating the perineum, the often overlooked area between the scrotum and anus. Adding sensation here is sure to please.
Temperature Play
For an extra thrill, try temperature play. Put an ice cube in your mouth, then slide down the shaft. The contrast between the ice's coldness and your mouth's warmth creates a tantalizing sensation.
However, when he is nearing climax, introducing a new element could disrupt his pleasure, so exercise caution.
The Element of Surprise
While planning and communication are essential in many areas of a relationship, surprise oral sex shows your passion and enthusiasm.
Morning blowjobs, spontaneous bouts of pleasure during a Netflix binge, or any other unanticipated encounter demonstrates your desire excitingly. However, again, use discretion if attempting when he is close to finishing.
Extra Sensations and Surprises
Thermal Thrills
Altering temperatures during fellatio introduces arousing contrasts that magnify sensuality. For example, placing an ice cube in your mouth before taking him in will provide an exciting chill. The coldness of the ice contrasts with the warmth of your mouth, creating a temperature differential that electrifies nerve endings.
Be very careful when using temperature play and avoid extremes. Moderation is key.
Hidden Hot Spots
While the penis is the focal point of fellatio, other areas also deserve attention. The scrotum and the perineum, the space between the scrotum and anus, are loaded with nerve endings and are exquisitely sensitive.
Gently licking and sucking these zones can induce blissful sensations. Again, take care to avoid overstimulation. You can slowly gauge his reaction to determine the appropriate pressure and duration.
The Element of Surprise
Unexpected sexual encounters are tremendously arousing for most people. Surprising your partner with an unanticipated blowjob can be an exciting treat that conveys your enthusiasm. However, for some, surprise sexual contact may induce anxiety.
Know your partner well and obtain explicit consent before attempting any unannounced sexual act. When done right and with care for your partner’s comfort level, an unexpected blowjob can be thrilling. But their consent and security must come before any act, no matter how well-intentioned.
Employing sensations and surprises during fellatio requires sensitivity, care for your partner’s needs, and moderation. When added tastefully and with consent, temperature play, exploring erogenous zones, and unforeseen encounters can bring oral sex to new heights of sensual delight.
But tread carefully, go slowly, and never continue over your partner’s protests or without their enthusiastic agreement. Their pleasure, comfort, and security must be the priority.
The Big Finish - Spit or Swallow?
Once you have teased, licked, sucked, and stroked him to the brink of orgasm, it’s time for the finale. At this point, you have a choice: spit or swallow. For some, this can be a delicate decision. However, either option can be an enjoyable end to a fantastic blowjob for both parties involved.
Spitting
Spitting is a perfectly acceptable choice if swallowing is not appealing or comfortable for you. Have tissues, wipes, or a washcloth on hand to discretely expel the ejaculate.
Excusing yourself to the bathroom to spit immediately following the act can disrupt the intimate mood, so preparation is vital.
Spitting also allows you to avoid the taste if that is a concern. With open communication, spitting can be an enjoyable option for both partners.
Swallowing
Swallowing the ejaculate at the end of the blowjob allows for a seamless, uninterrupted finish that many find intensely erotic. The act of swallowing also provides an additional sensation for him during orgasm.
While the taste or texture may take some getting used to, swallowing is a natural culmination of a fantastic blowjob for those comfortable with it. Using flavored lubricants or having a drink nearby can help make the experience more pleasant.
Ultimately, whether to spit or swallow comes down to personal comfort levels and preferences between you and your partner. With open communication about desires and boundaries, either choice can be the perfect end to an incredible blowjob.
Compromise and a willingness to explore different options can increase intimacy and trust in your relationship.
Conclusion
Ultimately, the key to giving him the ultimate blowjob is enthusiasm, confidence, and exploring what turns him on. While technique certainly matters, nothing beats passion and excitement.
Let him see how much you want to pleasure him. Tease him with new tricks like ice or prostate play if he’s open to it.
Most importantly, have fun connecting in this intimate way. A blowjob can be an incredible bonding experience when you tune into each other’s desires.
So slow down, savor the moment, and enjoy driving your man wild. With the right mindset and these tips in your back pocket, you’ll treat him to a mind-blowing experience.
