What Is a Strap-on and How Does It Work?
A strap-on is a sex toy that allows you to penetrate your partner without using your genitals. It has a dildo or vibrator attached to a harness that you wear around your waist and thighs. The dildo slides into a ring on the front of the harness so you can maneuver it for penetration.
Strap-ons allow you to have penetrative sex in any position without getting tired. They open up possibilities for double penetration or DP, where one partner wears the strap-on, and another penetrates from behind.
Strap-ons also allow those without penises to penetrate their partners. For many, strap-ons lead to increased intimacy and pleasure with a partner.
The Different Types of Strap-Ons Available
When it comes to strap-ons, you’ve got options. The most common types are harnesses, dildos, and vibrating dildos. Let's explore each one to find what suits your needs and desires.
Harnesses
Harnesses come in a variety of styles, from lingerie-inspired to sporty. They typically have O-rings where you attach a dildo of your choice. Harnesses are very adjustable and can fit almost any body type. They're also comfortable for long-term wear and suitable for vigorous activity.
Dildos
Dildos come in different shapes, sizes, colors, and materials. Silicone is an excellent choice as it's body-safe, flexible, and easy to clean. Consider the size and shape you want, from realistic phallic dildos to whimsical glass or metal dildos. Dildos can be used alone or attached to a harness.
Vibrating dildos
For extra stimulation, vibrating dildos provide pleasurable vibrations for you and your partner. They typically have multiple vibration speeds and patterns, so you can find what feels best.
Vibrating dildos can be used alone or with a harness, and many are also waterproof, so you can enjoy them in the bath or shower.
Factors to Consider When Choosing a Strap-On
Size and Fit
When shopping for a strap-on, size, and fit should be at the top of your list. Strap-ons come in a variety of sizes, from small to extra large. Think about what size dildo you and your partner will be comfortable with.
A strap-on that’s too big can be uncomfortable and even painful. It’s best to start with a smaller size and work your way up as you get used to it.
Materials
Silicone dildos are an excellent strap-on option. They are made of high-quality, body-safe silicone that resembles real skin. They are also easy to clean and disinfect after use. Avoid using lower-quality disinfectants after use.
Avoid lower-quality materials like jelly, PVC, and TPE, which can be porous and complex to sanitize.
Leather and nylon are durable, comfortable options for harnesses. Leather harnesses tend to be more expensive but last longer. Nylon is more affordable but may wear out faster over time. Both can be adjusted to securely and comfortably fit a variety of body types and sizes.
Added Features
Some strap-ons include extra features to enhance your experience. Vibrating dildos provide added stimulation for both partners. Double dildos allow for double penetration.
Suction cup bases let you stick the dildo to a hard surface for solo play or extra stability. Consider which added features you and your partner may enjoy.
Using Your New Strap-on Safely and Comfortably
Do Your Research
Before using your new strap-on, research the proper techniques and safety precautions. Read reviews from others with similar strap-ons to get recommendations on positions, hygiene, and comfort.
Ask questions—no silly questions about trying new things in the bedroom. The more you know going in, the more fun and pleasurable the experience will be for you both.
Start Slowly
The first time using a strap-on can be exciting but also intimidating. Start slowly by putting on your harness and dildo over your clothes to get used to how it feels. Practice walking around, bending over, and moving your hips.
Once you’re comfortable, try it naked with a lubricant to get a sense of how the dildo moves and responds to your body. Go slowly, focus on what feels good for you, and stop if anything feels painful.
Focus on Foreplay
Spend lots of time on foreplay before inserting the dildo. Kissing, caressing, oral sex, and fingering will arouse you both and relax the muscles, making penetration easier and more pleasurable.
Use lubricant generously on both the dildo and your partner for maximum comfort. Apply more lubricant any time there is friction or discomfort.
Find the Right Position
The position that gives you the most control and comfort is usually best for your first time. Missionary position, spooning, or having your partner on top facing you are good options. Doggy style or more complex positions can be tried once you get the hang of it.
You can go slowly, communicate how it feels, and adjust as needed. The key is to start simple and build up your confidence and skills over multiple encounters.
With some practice, patience, and communication, you’ll use your strap-on comfortably and confidently in no time. But remember, there’s no need to rush into anything before you both feel fully ready.
Take time to learn what you enjoy—your strap-on adventures should be fun and fulfilling!
Strap-on FAQs: Your Top Questions Answered
What size should I get?
The right size for you depends on your experience level and comfort. For beginners, we recommend starting with a smaller dildo, around 1 to 1.5 inches in width.
You can then size up as you get more comfortable. An adjustable harness is also a great option, allowing you to use different-sized dildos.
What material is best?
Silicone is a popular choice as it’s body-safe, flexible, and easy to clean. Avoid porous materials like jelly rubber, which can’t be properly sanitized. Silicone comes in different densities, from very soft to quite firm. A medium density is a good all-purpose choice.
How do I put it on?
Most harnesses have adjustable straps you step into and tighten to fit snugly but comfortably against your body. Make sure the base of the dildo sits over your clitoris for maximum stimulation. Adjust the straps so the dildo points straight out and feels secure.
Practice moving around and get used to the feeling of it before engaging in any sexual activity. With regular use, putting on and wearing a harness will become second nature.
How do I use it with a partner?
Communicate with your partner about what you both want, and go slowly. Focus on foreplay to help relax and arouse you both. Apply plenty of water-based lube to the dildo and the receiving partner’s genitals.
Start where you're both comfortable, like missionary or doggy style.
Gently rub the dildo against your partner's genitals, then slowly insert just the tip. Pause to allow them to get accustomed to the feeling before inserting more or starting to thrust. Maintain eye contact, start slow, and have fun exploring!
We hope this helps answer some of your questions about strap-ons. Don’t hesitate to contact us if you have any other questions. Happy pegging!
Conclusion
So there you have it, ladies. With all the options available, choosing the suitable strap-on can initially seem overwhelming. However, keeping your preferences and needs in mind can help you narrow down the choices.
Feel free to get something inexpensive while experimenting and figuring out what works best.
With a little trial and error, you'll find the perfect strap-on that hits all the right spots and takes your sex life to new heights of pleasure.
Remember that comfort, quality materials, and compatibility with your partner are key. So get out there and start strapping one on! You won't regret it.
